Have you ever wondered about how after spending time around an unmotivated, unhappy person, you can start to become unmotivated and unhappy yourself?
If so, this article should help you understand a little bit more about the nature of unhappy people and why it's so important to stay away from people who are always seeing the worst in everything.
Have you ever heard of the term "guilty by association," if so, it might not have occurred to you that guilt isn't the only thing that we acquire by association?
Being around enthusiastic people causes you to become enthusiastic, being around ambitious people encourages you to become ambitious ... and being around miserable people causes you to become miserable yourself.
This is because human beings are social creatures and we rely on the support of one another to survive. Think about how painful rejection is, and that ought to give you an idea of how connecting with others is hardwired into us.
It's a part of our survival instincts, and so there's nothing you can do to change that ... and most of the time that's okay.
But this survival instinct also causes us to blend in with the people around us so that we will have a sense of belonging. This, again, is completely normal--but it can also be a double-edged sword.
Ask yourself this question: If you're around people who are unhappy all the time, how are you going to develop a sense of belonging when you're with them?
You'll do it by identifying with the way that they think and "tuning in" to the same physical vibrations which you can "feel" coming off of them.
This might sound a little bit new age, but the human body actually emits electrical signals and vibrations according to the condition of the nervous system ...
... which is an electrical system.
When I say that you "tune in" to the vibration of the people around you, I mean that your body can actually pick up on these vibrations and cause you to think thoughts that will make you match them.
This is also the same reason why unhappy people are attracted to one another, enthusiastic people are
attracted to one another, and so on and so on.
Now, it might be tempting to think that you can be a positive person around the unhappy and cause them to take on YOUR vibration. This is true sometimes--but it's also true that for most people, vice comes easier than virtue ...
Mahatma Gandhi said that, by the way.
He also said that it's not possible for a reformer to be in a close relationship with someone whom he's reforming.
If you know someone who always thinks in negatives, it's probably a good idea for you to create some distance and boundaries.
Even if you love this person, their negativity isn't as weak a state of mind as many of us think it is--for many, it's a position of power.
It's a position which allows people to gather sympathy from others and to suck away their emotional energy.
The best way to help someone who has fallen into chronic negativity is to provide a positive example for them to see. It's hard to do this when you're allowing them to suck all of your energy away.
At best, you can set an example for them to follow and give them advice as to how they can change--but if they don't, don't assume that they can't.
More likely, their unhappiness is a position of power that they've been using to get what they want for a very long time.
Knowing this, and the fact that unhappiness is contagious, it's best that you focus on keeping your
vibrations consistent with the type of people who will build you up and empower you to become a better person.