Have you ever considered just how important your self-talk really is when it comes to your personal growth and self-confidence?
If not, just imagine what kind of influence your friends have on you when they talk to you ... or how much your parents had when you were growing up.
Now imagine this: You're around yourself more often than anyone else on this planet. That ought to give you an idea of just how important it is to use empowering words when you speak to yourself.
This takes practice, though, and if you aren't really choosing your self-talk, you've probably developed some bad habits.
The following "affirmation workout" will help you to undo these habits and form empowering and inspiring self-talk.
As you begin to study the psychology of affirmations, the idea of monitoring your thoughts and internal dialogue can seem overwhelming.
There's a lot to remember: keep things affirmative, avoid negative thoughts, focus on what you want instead of what you don't want ... how in the world can you remember all those things?
Well, the good news is that you don't have to. All you have to do is follow the "Reverse Golden Rule"--when it comes to the way you speak to yourself, "Do unto yourself as you would have others do to you."
In other words, as you're listening to your self-talk, ask yourself: "Would I want to be around someone 24-7 if they talked to me this way?" If not, "How would I prefer them to talk to me?"
These two questions will help you to immediately redirect your self-talk without having to remember a lot of details about what to say and what not to say.
Now that you have a basic idea of how to monitor your self-talk, let's look at five principles for building your daily affirmation exercises:
The best affirmations are those that suggest specific actions instead of just wishes like "I want to be more confident."
Ask yourself what you would actually be doing if you were more confident, and use those verbs to build your affirmation. For example:
"I approach strangers with grace and enthusiasm."
Whenever possible, focus your affirmations more on changing your identity than on achieving goals.
Yes, you want to achieve your goals as well, but always ask yourself what kind of a person you need to become in order to achieve your goal and build your affirmations around that.
Instead of making your affirmations about what you want to stop doing, what you want to lose or what you don't want, make them about what you do want.
Whenever possible, use words like can, will, want, gain and am instead of words like can't, won't, don't, lose, stop and quit.
This will encourage you to focus on the result that you want instead of the results you want to avoid.
Your subconscious mind does not respond to vague requests and commands, so it's important for you to be specific in your affirmations.
This is another reason why action-based affirmations are more effective. They give you something specific to focus on, which stating wishes like "I am confident and assertive" or "I am wealthy and financially secure" does not.
TIP: Ask yourself exactly what you want to accomplish, determine what you have to do to accomplish it and build your affirmations around those specific answers.
The most common reason why people fail in using positive affirmations is that they don't practice them on a consistent, daily basis.
You'll never be in a position in your life when you can stop training your mind to think proactively and positively. There are simply too many opportunities for you to take on negative thinking habits.
Make a consistent daily practice of affirmations and always remember that personal growth and self-improvement is a lifetime commitment.
You can easily make your own mind movie that will give you powerful visual affirmations daily.