8 Secrets of Success

Success or the pursuit of it is what drives a lot of people. But, have you ever wondered if there was a secret to success? Is there some trick or some shared quality that sets successful people apart from the rest of the crowd?

Success expert Richard St John interviewed over 500 of the most successful people in the world. In doing so, he has come up with a list of 8 secrets that are essential to success.

He compressed what is normally a two-hour presentation into this highly informative 3 minute TED Talk.

Watch the video here…

It started when Richard was asked by a teen – What leads to success? Feeling bad because he was not able to answer the question, he decided to ask some of the most successful people in the world the very same question.

So, 7 years 500 interviews later here is what he came up with.

1. Passion

They say, ‘Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life.’ The same goes for success, you need to follow your passion.

Freeman Thomas, says “I’m driven by my passion”. Do it for love they don’t do it for money. Carol Coletta says, “I would pay someone to do what I do”.

The interesting thing is if you do it for love the money comes anyway.

2. Work

You need to work hard if you wish to succeed. No one ever did well by taking the easy route.

St. John said that Rupert Murdoch told him that “It’s all hard work nothing comes easily, but I have a lot of fun.”

“Fun” may not be something readily equated hard work, but it’s true. Successful people have fund doing the hard work.

3. Good

In order to be successful, you have to be good at what you do.

Alex Garden says, “To be successful put your nose down in something and get damn good at it.”

There is no magic to becoming good at what you do. It all goes back to hard work and practice.

4. Focus

Norman Jewison said, “I think it all has to do with focusing yourself on one thing.”

You will never be successful if you have too many things on your plate. Decide what you want to do, figure out how you want to do it and focus on getting it done.

Achieving success is hard enough without you trying to achieve multiple goals at once. Do yourself a favor and focus on just one or two.

5. Push

David Gallo says, “Push yourself physically and mentally.” You’ve got a push, push, push. You got to push through shyness and self-doubt.

It’s not always easy to push yourself. There will be times when motivation is hard to come by, but don’t let that stop you.

6. Serve

Serving and giving back is important. In his talk, St John said, “Now a lot of kids tell me they want to be millionaires. The first thing I say to them it’s okay well you can’t serve yourself. You got to serve others or something of value because that’s the way people really get rich.”

Service makes you feel that you are part of something greater than yourself. It will help motivate you to be better at what you do. Giving and serving helps pave the way to your own success.

7. Ideas

Keep those ideas coming! Not every idea may be a good one, but never stop having them.

Bill Gates had the idea of building the first microcomputer software company. He acted on it and it has undoubtedly brought him immense success.

Richard says, “There’s no magic to creativity and coming up with ideas.” It’s true. You don’t have to force yourself to get great ideas, but if a good one comes your way, act on it.

8. Persist

Joe Krause says, “Persistence is the number one reason for our success”.

You got to persist to a failure you got to persist through CRAP which of course means:

C – Criticism
R – Rejection
A – Assholes
P – Pressure

Persist through all these and you are surely going to find success.

There you have it. Richard St John’s 8 Secrets to success. If you want to be successful, try these 8 out.

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A 5-Step Plan to Deal With Anger

Everyone knows what it’s like to be wronged in some way, be it by a person or situation. Anger is the natural response because this emotion pushes us into “fight mode” when we’re faced with threats.

To a certain extent, anger is actually a helpful defense mechanism that keeps us safe. However, poorly managed anger can endanger your health, relationships and the quality of your life in general.

If you’re having trouble getting your anger under control because of issues in your marriage (or due to other factors), here are some ways you can start dealing with it today:

 

#1: Anger Is Not The Only Solution

In fact, anger at its rawest (i.e. most destructive and hateful) is NOT a solution at all.

In reality, there are OTHER ways to act on your emotions. During a heated argument with your spouse, you could jump the gun and say, “I’m so sick of putting up with your crap!”

Or, you can say, “You know what? I’m pissed that we’re not on the same page, so I think I need a break.”

Both of these address your anger, but which is a better path to take?

Lashing out won’t help you calm down. On the contrary, studies have shown that anger actually grows exponentially the longer you go down that path.

Your blood pressure will spike, your heart feels like a freight train, and you’ll be at greater risk of coronary heart disease.

Worse, you’ll alienate other people around you. Do you really want leave others feeling terrible, lose respect for you and avoid being around you?

The benefits of releasing anger destructively are only temporary. Though it may feel good for a little while to get it off your chest, but once the dust settles, the long-lasting effects are hardly worth it.

Dr. John Gottman, the author of “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, tells couples that venting anger has no cathartic effect. The more you destructively express your anger, the more you MAGNIFY it.

 

#2: Turn your anger Into Something Positive

So if you have to get mad, do it for a good reason. Be angry because you want resolve the issue concerning your spouse, and not to hurt him or her.

Author and TV show host Dr. Phil says that the one way he can tell if a couple is going to stay together or not is by the way they handle their conflicts. If a couple argues not to get their points across and simply to hurt each other, then this attitude will only lead to divorce.

However, if you choose to have something good to come out of your anger, then you will not have wasted all that energy for nothing.

If anything, let the expression of your anger be a constructive experience for both of you.

But how do you go about doing that?

 


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#3: Attack The Issues and NOT Your Spouse

Like we discussed, hurting your spouse out of anger is not a constructive approach. Instead, take out your frustration on the problems arising from what your spouse said or did.

A good way to deal with your anger is by framing your statements in a way that addresses the situation as a whole. Obviously, your spouse’s actions have a lot to do with the situation in the first place.

Mindy, a client of ours, shared with us her way of expressing her anger. She says, “When my husband forgot yet again to pick up the groceries every Wednesday like we agreed upon, I resisted the temptation to accuse him of being insensitive.”

To address the issue, she told her husband:

You know, I find it frustrating when you forget to pick the groceries because I sent you an email and text message at lunch time and you still forgot.

I know you have a lot to think about, but it stresses me out when we don’t have the stuff we need for me to make dinner. Then we’ll both be affected because we have to spend for take-out when you know that our budget is tight right now.

It would really take a load off my mind if you made an effort to remember to pick up the groceries like talked about before.

This was an excellent way for Mindy to frame her anger because:

– She talked about the problem from the “big picture” perspective to avoid belittling her husband.

– She made it clear that this was THEIR problem and didn’t attribute it to something that was wrong with HIM (i.e. a character defect).

– She ended her constructive rant by offering a solution to the problem (“I would love it if you…”).

 

#4: Keep It Clean

When you get upset, have you ever wanted to use colorful language? If so, then welcome to the human race.

Although it’s perfectly natural to want to swear at someone who’s provoked you, it doesn’t mean that you actually should. Curse words don’t serve any other purpose than to hurt someone or (a big no-no, see #3) provoke an aggressive response.

The next time you feel like using foul language, keep in mind that it’s TOXIC to the soul and brings nothing good to the table. At best, it will only perpetuate a cycle of attacking and retaliation.

Rather than label the other person (e.g. “You’re stupid!”), label your feelings. Here are a few examples:

“I’m angry because…”

“It really ticks me off that…”

“I’m bothered when you…”

You wouldn’t want the other person to hurl four-letter words at you. You don’t have to use obscenities for the other person to acknowledge your anger.

 

#5: Take a Break!

Who says you have to stay in a stressful situation? Everybody has their limits, and you don’t have to force yourself to carry on even when you’re already at your wit’s end.

Office workers need breaks in between the day because being productive doesn’t keep going at it until you snap.  Your patience works the same way.

Give yourself a breather – go for a walk, meditate for a while, or put on some soothing music if you feel overwhelmed. Some people like to sit in a quiet spot, close their eyes and think of something pleasant.

For instance, imagine you’re at a concert featuring your favorite band. Imagine the sights, sounds and emotions of being in a happy place.

Whatever your preference is, detach yourself from the situation for a little while to gain some peace of mind. It may feel a bit weird at first, but getting into this habit will help disrupt the cycle of anger and keep your emotions from escalating.

By nature, emotions are hard to control. But there’s nothing wrong with having feelings of anger because we wouldn’t be human otherwise.

With the right habits however, you can teach yourself how to avoid hurting others and end up picking up the pieces from the damage that anger can cause.

 


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Why Money Doesn’t Have To Ruin Your Marriage

We touched on the role of money in marriage in the past, but today we’ll be taking a closer look into the matter. It’s no secret that a lot of couples have been split apart because of money problems.

The very act of mulling over a lack of finances is a source of great tension in a marriage. Left unchecked, arguments about money will feed on themselves and worse, create a generally negative sentiment in your relationship.

But like other marital issues, this can be properly managed. Money doesn’t have to a reason for contempt in your marriage, and here’s why:

 

#1: You Got Each Other’s Back

Generally speaking, teamwork is the best approach to many types of problems. However, having a common mindset will greatly impact any team’s problem-solving process.

For married couples, this feeling of “we-ness” is especially important when tackling financial issues. Otherwise, a couple will find it next to impossible to come up with a solution if they’re not on the same page.

Like any other couple, you and your spouse are different people.  These differences resonate in key areas of your marriage, especially when it comes to managing money in the family.

You can’t do anything about the fact you and your spouse grew up under different circumstances, causing you to have varying – or even clashing – perspectives on money.

What does money mean to you? How much or little of it was there to go around in your family while growing up? How about your spouse?

Your differences aren’t a threat – NOT being aware of them is. Addressing these questions today may feel uncomfortable today, but it will help you work towards a common vision with your spouse tomorrow.

Chris, a graphic designer from Maine, told us about his difficulties living with his in-laws. “I grew up in a family where we were taught to be independent at an early age…especially in the financial sense,” he explains.

Since he was twelve, Chris has been earning has always been on finding work, such as part-time or summer jobs to support himself to a certain extent. “That’s why I found it a bit emasculating to live with my wife’s family since she often asked for their help even if we could manage on our own,” he says.

To address this issue, Chris gently brought up discussions with his wife regarding their respective thoughts on money.

He shares, “During our moments alone, I casually asked my wife about her experiences with money while growing up. We’ve been married for two years now…looking back, we should have talked about this much sooner.”

When Chris’ wife told him that she has a more relaxed attitude towards money, it confirmed his hunches and allowed him to share his own values with her. “Eventually, we moved to our own place after I helped her understand why it was important for me to live apart from them.”

Chris confesses that it’s taking them a while to get used to living on their own, but he’s confident things will pick up soon.

Chris confesses that living on their own has been challenging, but now that they’ve had a chance to come up with a solid financial plan, he’s confident that things will pick up for them soon.

“I’m slightly annoyed that my wife still occasionally asks for her family’s help, but it’s much better than it was before,” he says with a smile.

Empathizing with each other’s viewpoints is a successful basis for any sort of teamwork. It may be difficult at first to accept your differences, but the sooner you talk about them, the better you can work around them and move on.

 

# 2: Don’t Sweat It, You’ve Made It This Far

Perception is a powerful thing, and the way you see marital problems greatly affects the way you handle them.  You’ve braved other storms together, so issues about money will come to pass as well.

Don’t let the wind get knocked out of your sails; keep moving forward by focusing on a plan, and not your emotions.

For instance, what are your general goals as a couple? Is it to save for a house by next year? Do you plan to eliminate that nagging credit card debt? Are you saving up for your children’s college fund?

Once you’ve gone over your basic objectives, you’ll be able to create smaller goals which will help you move in the direction you want to take.

We know a lot of couples who sort out their clutter as one of their sub-goals so they can sell things they no longer need. Even better, they’re ridding themselves of the rubbish that’s only taking up precious floor space at home.

You’ll be surprised by how much you can earn from a garage sale! Plus, living in a cleaner house does wonders for your peace of mind and reduces money-related tensions.

Here’s another idea: put numbers on the board (such as your monthly budget) to get a clearer picture of how much you have to work with.

This will help you create specific sub-goals which will take you closer to your general objectives.  This includes putting “wants” on hold (e.g. eating out, splurging on luxury items) and committing to save a certain amount every month.

Some couples might need help streamlining their budget, so it wouldn’t hurt to enlist the help of a financial adviser. He or she can give you a different perspective on how to cut the fat, suggest other approaches you might have overlooked and develop a realistic strategy you can follow.

 


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#3: You Can Look For Alternatives

Speaking of other approaches, perhaps you and your spouse have other marketable skills that you haven’t tapped yet. Browsing the web will help you come across opportunities to earn on the side.

For example, some people make money through affiliate marketing, which is selling other people’s products and earning commission from sales. Sites like afilorama.com and amazon.com will help you get started on how to make money online.

On the other hand, the internet can also help you discover a profitable niche where your interests can be turned into a part-time career, such as writing and singing.

 

#4: Every Threat Presents An Opportunity

If anything, let your financial challenges be a test of your strength as a couple. Though you might have to cut a few corners here and there for now, it’s important not to lose sight of the bond that you share with your partner.

Work from a perspective that treats problems as a chance to grow rather than an end-of-the-world event. In fact, this trying time could be the proverbial silver lining.

For instance, a financial crisis is a chance for you to improve your communication skills and reconcile your opinions about money (see #1).

What’s more, financial issues in a marriage don’t exist in vacuum. Are you really arguing about money, or are there deeper issues beneath the surface?

It’s possible that money could just be aggravating other existing problems in your marriage. If so, then tackling your financial challenges will help you identify and address these underlying problems as well – another hidden benefit for you!

Here’s something to remember: You may not have total control over the external circumstances surrounding your marriage (e.g. a bad economy, getting downsized, unexpected financial emergencies), but you can control your reactions to them.

With the right approach, any type of marital issue – especially money-related ones – doesn’t have to bring you apart.

 

 


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4 Powerful Ways To Build Unstoppable Confidence

“The only power that exists is inside ourselves.”

– Anne Rice

My friend, Lisa, suffered a serious blow to her confidence not too long ago.

She’s a mother of four, and her world got turned upside down after her now ex-husband cheated on her (with someone half her age, no less).

“I always thought of myself as someone who was poised and cool as a cucumber,” she says, “but after what happened, it crushed every confident bone in my body.”

Lisa added, “It really messed with my head for the longest time. I felt ugly on the outside AND the inside… and the feeling ran DEEP.”

“It wasn’t just about my looks, but also in terms of personality… and pretty much my overall worth as a human being.”

So, not only did Lisa have to deal with the sting of betrayal…

…but her self-esteem also took a deep nosedive.

But the good news is that after spending about a year and a half putting the pieces of her life back together, Lisa got her groove back.

“It wasn’t an easy road for sure, but I’m actually grateful I went through all of that,” she says.

Lisa realized that she had to rediscover her strengths and, more importantly, rebuild her self-confidence from the inside-out.

Today, she’s dating Matt, a fellow single parent that Lisa’s friends set her up with. She couldn’t be happier, and her kids absolutely adore Matt.

 

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The Benefits of Being Confident

While not everyone has gone through what Lisa did, we’ve all had experiences that have done a number on our self-confidence.

But the great thing about it is that we can all start building the foundations of rock-solid confidence at ANY age.

And it opens up a world of benefits, such as…

  • Knowing how to stand up for yourself: a confident person dares to put their foot down when they realize they’re being mistreated.
  • Having the courage to take action: confidence also translates into the natural ability to get the ball rolling. While other folks are busy hemming and hawing, the confident ones make stuff happen.
  • Confidence = self-belief: another hallmark of being confident is knowing your potential… and doing everything you can to realize it.
  • Grace under pressure: Nothing says “sexy” more than keeping your cool in the face of adversity. When you’re up against formidable odds and still crushing it, that’s a sure-fire sign of authentic confidence.
  • Being insanely attractive: As Kirsten Dunst put it, “The real secret to total gorgeousness is to believe in yourself, have self-confidence and try to be secure in your decisions and thoughts.”

Now that we’ve covered the awesome perks of self-confidence, let’s get into HOW to cultivate this quality:

#1: Get Out Of Your Head

Getting stuck in the inner world of your thoughts is an insidious habit – and it’s the quickest way to tank your confidence.

And when you let that inner critic run rampant inside your head…

…it’s going to act like it OWNS the place.

So you have to take back your inner world by watching the quality of your thoughts.

You know what I’m talking about – it’s those little lies that your inner critic feeds you. And they usually fall under these main categories:

“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m such a bad person.”

These types of thoughts often surface when you mess up in some way – and you end up judging yourself harshly for it.

Furthermore, these ugly thoughts also come tumbling out when something terrible happens (like in Lisa’s case, for instance).

And what most women don’t realize is these two kinds of thoughts go hand in hand.

Once those feelings of inadequacy kick in (i.e., “I’m not good enough”) …

…then those “I’m a bad person” thoughts come in to finish the job.

The reason is that a lot of women have a moral attachment to their mistakes.

In their eyes, failing at some aspect of their lives (e.g., a work blunder or a failed relationship) means failing as a human being.

In other words, an underlying sense of SHAME keeps women trapped in a self-defeating mindset.

So the first step to breaking free from this mental trap is by harnessing the power of self-awareness – and, more importantly, acceptance.

And that brings us to our next point…

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#2: Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable

Now, that we’ve gotten to the root of a confidence-destroying mindset, its time to face those uncomfortable (and downright ugly) feelings head-on.

To do that, you need to ask yourself, “Where are these negative thoughts and emotions coming from?”

Spend some time to quietly reflect on these feelings. Then, write them down on a notebook.

Putting it down on paper makes those feelings less fuzzy and vague. Furthermore, it allows you to trace those feelings back to whatever caused them.

Again, this has to do with external circumstances and negative experiences – so this is where you should start digging.

(Now, there’s another process of “emotional digging” that I discovered which works WONDERS – and we’ll get to that soon…)

Once you’ve pinpointed the exact source of those dark emotions, you can start ACCEPTING them for what they are.

So this is about being aware of those feelings, observing them, and ultimately, making peace with them.

And the fantastic thing about this breakthrough is that it removes self-judgment from the equation.

Rumi, a prolific poet from the 13th century, described these negative thoughts as “temporary guests.”

And more importantly, he tells us to accept these “guests” with honor and gratitude.

This is the key to lifting yourself – and your sense of confidence – from the depths of self-loathing and shame.

 

#3: Build The Other Crucial Pillars of Self-Confidence

Ok, so aside from embracing those negative thoughts, you also need to upgrade the other areas of your personal growth.

After all, the more well-rounded you are, the easier it is to crush that inner voice of self-doubt.

Here’s how to get started:

  • Keep all electronics out of your bedroom: You probably know that the blue light from your phone or laptop screen isn’t doing your sleep routine any favors. But this is also about looking at a screen first thing in the morning to check your email or social media account.                                So this boils down to not allowing these external distractions to hijack your mind – and your ability to get things done during the day.
  • Be an agenda-setter: This is directly related to the point above. Sidestepping digital distractions allows you to set your intentions early in the day. When you set your most important goals for the day right out the gate (instead of diving right into your inbox or newsfeed), it gives you REAL power to make things happen.  Experts call this phenomenon the “Confidence Competency Loop”: the better you get at doing something (i.e., getting stuff done),  the more confident you become. And the more confident you get, the easier it is to get better at it. Lather, rinse, repeat.  So, when you remove the obstacles to taking action, you’ll get on the fast track to higher self-confidence.
  • Attend to your other needs: I’m talking about socially, intellectually, and health-wise.  Aligning yourself with people who share the same goals and values is a great confidence builder. In fact, renowned psychologist Abraham Maslo says that being part of social groups is a fundamental human need.  And it’s always a good idea to make time for learning new stuff, no matter what your interests are.  Your local library and the world wide web are a treasure trove of resources. Use them to upgrade your knowledge and skills – which, as you know, are building blocks of confidence.

Finally, regular cardiovascular activity boosts your endorphin levels AND improves self-image. And you’re also boosting your confidence levels just by knowing that you’re taking care of yourself.

#4: Train Your Brain

This, in my humble opinion, is the BIGGEST one.

By now, you’ve probably gathered that confidence is really about looking within.

And the best source of confidence comes from none other than your inner world. That’s why earlier, we covered the importance of “emotional digging.”

This gets to the root of a lot of things we take for granted – and that includes the inner depths of your subconscious mind.

You see, THIS is where those negative emotions and thoughts come from.

And while you need to embrace this part of yourself…

…it’s ALSO important to fill your subconscious mind with the right BELIEFS.

These beliefs don’t just shape the world you live in – but also define your reality.

So, when you plant the seeds of confidence deep in your brain…

…it gives rise to an honest-to-goodness, dyed-in-the-wool kind of confidence.

That means you won’t get easily rattled by criticism, negative circumstances, or toxic people.

Did Susan from accounting get that promotion, and you didn’t? No problem.

Did your friend drop down a couple of sizes…

…and meanwhile, you’re struggling to find the motivation to hit the gym and eat better?

Doesn’t matter.

What DOES matter is that you’re taking action and focused on your own growth – all without looking over your shoulder and comparing yourself to others.

THAT’S confidence – and everyone will see that.

And training your mind to withstand these external forces is easier than it seems.

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3 Reasons Why Being Financially Independent is CRUCIAL In a Relationship

My friend Mindy, a 42-year-old single mom, recently started dating Brad whom she met on a dating site. They chatted for a bit, flirted online, and agreed to meet in person.

For all intents and purposes, it seemed like a done deal.

“I have a good feeling about this,” Mindy thought. After all, Brad’s profile said that he was a firefighter and helped out at the Little League in his area.

Plus, his (already extremely flattering) photo featured Brad’s pet Labrador, which, in Mindy’s opinion, was the deal-clincher for her.

And right from the get-go, they seemed to hit it off well. The food was great, the drinks were flowing, and the sparks were definitely flying.

Less than an hour into the date, Mindy knew the chemistry was undeniable. She was sure Brad was a good fit.

Then, the bill came.

Mindy was fully expecting Brad to say something like, “Don’t worry about it, I got it…”

But after nervously eyeing the check – and exchanging glances at each other – Mindy broke the awkward silence (which felt like forever) by asking, "Can I chip in?"

Looking relieved, Brad said, “Oh, if you’re ok that, then I can cover my half. Thanks!”

Although Mindy felt a slight twinge of annoyance, she ended up splitting the bill with him.

Who Should Pay The Bill, Anyway?

Since then, they’ve gone out a couple more times, but Mindy’s been on the fence about the whole thing. This was when she came to me, asking for my take on the situation.

Mindy told me, “On our second date, he told me that he’d just had his car fixed, which was why he was relieved when I offered to split the bill.”

Mindy added, "And the good news was that he paid for everything straight away without waiting for me to chime in."

“BUT here’s the thing,” she said, with a hint of disappointment in her voice, “He kinda went back to his ‘old ways’ on our third date…”

“See, he *did* pick up the bill that time, BUT he had that SAME look on his face from our first date… you know, that ‘please help me out’ look…”

Mindy finished with a sigh, saying, “Everything would’ve been great if it wasn’t for this whole bill fiasco… I mean, is it even an issue to begin with?”

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So this is what I told her:

“Personally, I think he should have gotten the bill on the first date since he was the one who asked you out. I mean, even if you did offer to split it, he should’ve insisted on paying – that's just how dating goes.”

“But the fact that he tried to make up for it by getting the bill AFTER that is a good sign.”

“And you did know he's not exactly a millionaire, to begin with, so maybe that was why he acted the way he did on your first and third dates."

"I know a lot of guys who are jumpy around the issue of money.
.. and many of them have this fear that women just see them for how much they make - and not much beyond that.”

Then I said, “If the way he acts with the bill is too much for you, then you’d best move on…”

“OR, you could also consider all of his wonderful qualities and give him another chance to see how it goes.”

“If he really turns out to be a chronic cheapskate, well, then at least you tried.”

How To Stop Money From Cramping Your (Dating) Style

Like Mindy, a lot of women don't have the leverage to decide how to proceed with a similar situation.

When they’re lacking financial independence, it can really throw a wrench in their dating lives…

…not to mention their relationships.

Let me put it this way: in an ideal world (i.e., one where money isn’t an issue)…

…a woman can bring out her purse when the bill comes, then wait for the guy to make the first move (as he should).

And if he offers to pay, she can thank him with a smile, and wrap things up.

BUT if he doesn’t offer to pay, she should be able to help out – and actually MEAN it.

And if he DOES take up her offer, she can pay her share with NO hard feelings.

Later on, she can figure out if the whole was just a miscommunication…

…or if his behavior displayed red flags of actual cheapness.

Either way, it’s wise to be in a good position no matter what the outcome is – and financial independence is the BEST way to do that.

And in case things DO get serious, being able to pay for your own stuff is a good foundation for the relationship - and creates a healthy dynamic between you two.

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But what do I mean by that, exactly?

Well, here are three ways financial independence (FI) sets the right precedent in a relationship:

#1: FI Encourages a Sense of Autonomy (Hint: That’s a GOOD Thing!)

According to financial experts, it’s better for someone to be financially independent BEFORE getting into a relationship.

That’s because it makes for a smoother and less painful transition (financially speaking) for everyone involved. There’s noticeably less tension about expenses or with discussions about who pays which bill.

And if both people in the relationship gets to decide how to spend their money, that means fewer arguments.

#2: FI Sets The Stage for Mutual Respect

Like I said, a couple won’t be getting into fights about the stuff they buy for themselves.

If both of them are making enough so they can split the expenses equally (or at the very least, agree on a fair arrangement)…

…then they're free to buy whatever they want on their dime.

That means no petty squabbles about the boyfriend’s (or husband’s) taste for classic vinyl records, or the girlfriend’s (or wife’s) love of designer shoes.

As long as it doesn’t affect their savings - or way of life - then they’ll probably be ok with the other person’s spending habits.

#3: FI is Healthy In The Long Run

Generally speaking, couples who aren’t dependent on each other get to maintain their individual identities.

What I mean is that in a financially stable relationship, people can relate and behave towards each other on EQUAL terms.

So that means a couple can focus on being there for each other and growing together...

...without dealing with the unnecessary stress of money-related issues.

And being financially independent means you wouldn’t have to go through the same drama that Mindy did.

Like comedian Chris Rock says, “Wealth is not about having a lot of money - it's about having a lot of options.”

And FI gives you three options when you're on a date:

So either way, you're good.

Whether you want to keep dating a guy - or keep looking elsewhere…

…you know that your decision is coming from a place of independence - and NOT neediness.

Now, as much as I’d like to talk more about the how-to’s of financial independence, that’s a whole other topic…

But I will say that the world’s wealthiest folks have something in common.

It’s not being born with money, looks, or talent.

It’s about HABITS.

Thomas C. Corley, a prominent author and financial authority, spent five years of his life studying the habits of almost 200 self-made millionaires.

And he says that habits separate the rich from everybody else. According to him, the things that we do subconsciously make up 40 PERCENT of our waking hours.

That’s a HUGE amount of time spent on doing things - and making decisions - on AUTO-PILOT.

When you think about it, habits are nothing more than mental shortcuts which help us quickly make a bunch of decisions throughout the day.

That way, we don’t use up too much brain energy and willpower.

So, much of our financial independence (or lack thereof) is HEAVILY influenced by our subconscious decision-making skills.

And for anyone looking to improve their financial situation, all they need to do is optimize their subconscious money habits.

But you might be thinking, “Well, habits take a LONG time to develop.”

Well, I’m happy to say that that’s really not the case – not anymore, at least.

You see, there is a way to encode "rich people habits" directly to the subconscious – without having to spend months or years doing so.

And once you start acting, thinking, and behaving like a wealthy person…

…then it’s only a matter of time before the reality of your financial situation catches up with your habits.

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How To Make Every Day Your Perfect Day By Raising Your Vibration

Brainwave entrainment

It is one thing that a few people swear it works, a few people think it’s B.S. and most, do not understand.

If you’re amongst those that have heard about this before but don’t know what it is or how it works, I don’t blame you. Google this and you’ll get a complicated scientific explanation.

You’ll learn about frequencies and brainwaves and how the brain works and many other things that make your head spin. I’m surprised that you aren’t required to have a PhD to learn about brainwave entrainment, because honestly, it feels that complicated sometimes and I’m one person who knows how to do this right.

So instead of giving you another complex definition of this, with theta and gamma states, I’ll ask you a basic question.

Have you ever had moments in your life when you felt like you “attracted” good luck?

You know what I’m talking about? You walk down the street and you feel people love you. They smile at you, nod at you and you feel connected to those around you.

You go to work and your boss is actually agreeable and amazing to work with. If only he’d be like this each day, you’d love your job. You meet with your friends and they’re so kind and friendly and you feel so supported.

Or maybe you even attract some amazing things in your life. You end up meeting an amazing person who becomes your significant other. Or some large sum of money comes from nowhere and you have no idea how this happened.

Did this ever happened to you?

Chances are that it did.

It happened to all of us. We all have rare moments when everything seems to just work fine. In those moments, the universe falls into order and you get exactly what you want.

After so many good things happened to you, you end up scratching your head and you ask yourself two questions…

“How the hell all of this happened after everything in my life was a frustrating mess for so long?”

And…

“How can I make this happen again?”

The answer to both questions is simple. You were operating on a higher vibration level. You were in sync with the world around you and because of this; you were attracting all that’s good and joyful.

It’s nothing random. Maybe you, as a person, you looked and acted exactly the same. But your energy, the rate at which the particles your body vibrated were very different. They were at an optimal rate and because of this, instead of encountering frustration and pain and loss as we usually do, you attracted love and wealth and success.

It’s as simple as that.

Call it however you want, but when you’re on a low frequency, you are disconnected by those around you. You are disconnected to your world. You’re like a piece of an engine that is not fit anymore. It causes friction. It hurts more than it helps.

When you’re on a high vibration, high frequency, you’re like a well tuned, well-maintained engine and everything comes to you effortless. Life works. And yes, maybe modern science can’t explain this but it’s true because we are all experiencing it.

Everyone from average people to CEOs experienced periods in their life where everything fell in place where they attracted everything they ever wanted. And just like you, they’ve asked themselves how the heck all of this happened and what they could do for this to happen again.

So where does brainwave entrainment comes into play?

It’s a tool.

It’s a tool we’re so lucky to know about because it allows your brain to adapt and operate on that higher vibration level. Brainwave syncing are for the human brain what a Formula 1 pit crew is for a high performance car.

It takes even the worse out of sync brain, the one that’s operating on a very low frequency and constantly attracts pain and suffering and makes it work. It brings focus and energy and passion and increases the vibration of the user to the level where his life changes completely.

It’s so effective that some people call it “smart drugs for the brains” or “the best self-development tool that was ever created”. And I believe they’re right. I have noticed better results by using brainwave entrainment than anything else. Better than reading, better than journaling, better than meditation, even better than paying high priced energy healers.

This is how brainwave entrainment helps you.

Behind all those fancy terms, behind all those scientific explanations that almost nobody understands, brainwave entrainment work because it raises your vibrations. They help your brain work better. They put you in sync with the universe. And they help you act at your best, attracting the right people and circumstances in your life.

I mean, just imagine how your life would be if every day you’d be at your best. If every day you’d have that rare energy and focus and passion that attracts the right people and circumstances in your life. If each day, instead of pain and problems and obstacles, you’d be showered with good fortune.

Imagine how you’d feel if you could manifest your most precious goal in the next 24 hours. You could attract the person you love or attract money in your life or maybe get that opportunity to advance at work.

And now, picture a life where this happens each day, day in and day out, where good fortune is not some rare event that happens twice a year but a daily occurrence.

Do you want to do this?

Then I have exactly what you need.

I have created an unique program designed to bring your brain to the higher frequencies we’ve discussed. It’s plug and play. You need not do any homework with this. You need not research what different frequencies do or how to use them properly.

You just play them at night or when you’re resting and it will slowly adapt and tweak your brain for the higher vibrations you want. It’s like vitamin C. You listen to it and things get better but while vitamin C will prevent you from getting colds and will improve your immune system, what I have for you will help you manifest money, love, power or anything else that’s of importance to you.

So here’s the deal.

I call this program “Manifestation Magic”.

It’s the only program, as far as I know, that is especially designed to help you manifest what you desire in your life. Most brainwave entrainment programs are designed to just help you focus better or maybe to have more mental power.

This is admirable but I don’t want you to do math faster in your head. I don’t want you to be more productive. This is good but it will still take you years to get what you want.

I want you to manifest the life you desire.

I want you to attract, today, the love, the success, the wealth, the prosperity that’s rightfully yours.

You don’t have to read anything.

You don’t have to study.

You don’t have to actively participate in this.

You need to use it and to let the power of brainwave syncing tweak your brain and bring it on a higher level of vibration. You download it, put it on your phone and tonight, before you go to sleep, play it.

You need not do anything special.

Put your headsets on, listen and let it change it. Then soon you’ll see how things are different in your life. How people are more receptive. How opportunities you’ve never thought about show from nowhere. How everything feels right and you know this is “your day”.

And with the help of “Manifestation Magic”, every day will be your day.

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5 Ways To Squash Stress (And Reduce Anxiety)

“Stress is the trash of modern life-we all generate it but if you don't dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.” ― Danzae Pace

It’s Time To Feel More Focused & Energized In Your Life… And To Sleep Blissfully & Wake Each Day With A Calm Happy Mind!

Susan, a mom of two in her mid-forties, knew a thing or two about stress.

Her husband is in the military, and that means she has to hold the fort down at home, look after her two pre-teen daughters, and juggle a ton of other responsibilities.

So it’s no surprise that she would find herself exhausted to the bone and mentally drained.

Susan tried to keep herself cheerful and upbeat by watching a bit of Netflix and enjoy a glass of wine before bed.

However, she started to realize that her relaxation ritual became less and less effective as time went on.

For instance, Susan would still find it hard to get a good night’s sleep, so she’d have a rough start the next morning, which made her cranky around her kids.

And she tried distracting herself by spending way too much time scrolling through her social media feed.

But she’d wind up comparing herself to friends and getting into arguments in the comment section.

So, Susan was tired and anxious all the time because she couldn’t cope with the stress that was piling up.

Fortunately, her best friend Mary knew what was going on. She decided to step in and gently convinced Susan to revamp her approach to stress management.

She found it hard at first to change her routine, but Susan learned to embrace her new and improved lifestyle.

After making a few key changes, she’s learned to cut down on her nightcap and binge-watching habit.

And now, Susan checks her social media only once a day before doing something productive with her time.

As a result, Susan is more mentally resilient and she can handle the craziest of days without feeling overwhelmed.

Finding Inner Peace In A Chaotic World

A lot of people find themselves in the same situation as Susan. Unfortunately, they don’t have a system for dealing with the stress that accumulates throughout the week.

And if this goes unchecked, it can lead to long-term consequences, like chronic inflammation, low immunity, high blood pressure, insomnia, depression and heart disease.

That’s why it’s critical to have a system in place that acts as a safety valve to release built-up stress.

Here are some effective ways to take the edge off and get stress down to manageable levels:

#1: Fine Tune Your Self-Awareness

The main challenge with stress is that we often get flooded without even knowing that it’s happening.

And when you’re submerged in feelings related to anxiety, tension or anger, you need to come up for air - here are some great ways to do that:

#2: Tame The Beast Within

Stress can trigger feelings of fear, panic or hopelessness. And while awareness is the first step, you also need to direct that negative energy in a constructive direction.

Aside from practicing mindfulness and meditation, another way to deal with stress is by rewriting the negative dialogue in your head. Most people default to projecting the worst-case scenario in their minds - which is why you should counter that with positive internal dialogue.

For instance, you can come up with a list of positive statements to read to yourself when the occasion calls for it. Try telling yourself things like:

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#3: Eat Better To Feel Better

The human body can deal with stress better if it’s in a better condition to do so. That’s why a big part of stress management involves being on top of your health.

For starters, cutting out the processed food from your diet is a great step forward. Once you start replacing that with nutritionally-dense, whole foods instead, your body and brain will function much better.

Your gut bacteria, in particular, will hugely benefit from better food choices.

Billions of those microscopic organisms living in your digestive system play a significant role in emotional and mental health. A lot of studies over the years show that gut bacteria produce “happy chemicals” such as serotonin and dopamine.

#4: Ditch Your Inner Couch Potato

Many experts point out the risks of a lifestyle lacking in physical activity. For instance, research coming from Johns Hopkins Medicine shows that sedentary people are more likely to develop life-threatening conditions like heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, and even cancer.

So not only does exercise help cut down these risks, but it’s also your best weapon against the cumulative effects of stress. And the best thing you could do for yourself is to figure out a simple, low-maintenance exercise routine.

If you can get even get in 10-15 minutes of physical activity daily, you’re already on the right track.

Eventually, you’ll want to make room in your schedule to get in half an hour of exercise 2-3 times a week.

The other easy way to chip away at a sedentary lifestyle is by breaking up long periods of sitting. People who spend most of the day at the computer can get up and move once or twice for every hour of sitting down.

Go somewhere quiet (e.g., the office break room, your living room, an exercise room) and try doing stretches, going for a walk, or doing a handful of jumping jacks. The more you make a habit of this, the less damage sitting down can do to your body (and add to your stress levels).

#5: Stay On Top Of Your Bedtime Routine

A study from the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine shows a clear connection between the quality of sleep and stress levels.

Even lacking a few hours of sleep can leave someone feeling irritable, agitated, emotionally unstable and lethargic. This is why it’s VITAL that you set the right conditions for a good night’s rest.

For example, make sure your bedroom is free of any distractions, such as electronics. Switch off all screens a couple of hours before sleeping and do something relaxing instead (e.g. reading a book, meditating, listening to music).

This quiets down your mind and makes it less likely for you to toss and turn at night. Also, make sure your mattress and pillow are ideal for sleeping, and keep your room as cool and dim as possible.

Most folks take this part of their day for granted, but getting a good night’s sleep (BOTH quality and quantity-wise) will make a HUGE difference the next morning.

It sets you up for success and protects you from the stress that builds up throughout the day.

Aside from cultivating better bedtime habits, there’s a quick and easy way to drastically improve the quality of your sleep in as little 30 minutes!

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7 Keys To Reducing Stress

Today I want to talk to you about 7 keys that can help to reduce stress to a productive level, one in which it’s helpful, and not harmful.

James and Cathy have 3 kids, one of them is in high school and the others are in primary.

Cathy works part-time as a Dental Nurse, and James is a Real Estate Agent.

Some years are good for James, but this year, in particular, was really slow.

A lot of real estate agents were adopting new methods of selling, including flying drones through homes and getting nice-looking videos online…

…The kind of stuff that made people want to choose them over James to sell their houses.

Whether or not it had a real effect on sales wasn’t the point, if they chose another agent, then he’s making less commissions.

James and Cathy had a large weekly mortgage payment going out, kids were playing sports that costed money, and other agents were bragging about how well they were doing…

…Which made James go silent as he was feeling highly stressed.

It actually made him freeze up and watch TV more and do even LESS work when he needed to be at his best.

Cathy was frustrated at him because she felt he needed to be doing MORE, but in reality, James needed to do these things…

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7 Keys To Reducing Stress

  1. Reduce the feeling of stress to a productive level.
  2. Realize that doing more hours, is rarely the solution in any form of business.
  3. Embrace change, and adopt a mindset of excitement about potential innovations in the industry.
  4. Stay disciplined in his habits. It’s not a matter of doing more, it’s more a matter of keeping up those long term habits that are most likely to maintain long term success.
  5. Be willing to meet new people and step outside the comfort zone a little.
  6. Cultivate a habit of optimism, learning, and constant improvement. Trying to hold on to how things WERE in any area of life is futile. It’s important to embrace change, accept what has happened, enjoy the challenge, and chase hard for what could be.
  7. Stop fortune-telling. The brain feels more comfortable when it can predict the future, but in cases where it can’t, or the forecast is potentially grim, then stress and anxiety set in.

Sometimes all that you are in control of is what happens today, that NEXT STEP, and the habits you keep that inevitably lead to more positive outcomes.

For many people, overcoming stress requires a change in the lens from which they see the world.

They need to imprint those 7 keys above upon their minds. They need to flip the switch so that their mind sees the silver lining in the stressful situation so that they can not only find the right path out of it…

They can enjoy the challenge.

I highly recommend checking out ‘Wake Up Calm’ by Dr. Steve G. Jones.

It’s currently on special at the link below:

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This track also goes beyond helping reduce stress and promote feelings of optimism. It also helps you to sleep better, which is very helpful towards stress reduction also.

Have a wonderful day!

How To Remove Mental Clutter And Reclaim A Sense of Calm

I’ve watched one of those shows where the camera features a house so cluttered that the family inside can barely move.

It was back in the early 2000s when I got into those kinds of shows…

…and every time I watched it, I felt the need to do one thing - DECLUTTER.

Why???

It’s because, towards the end of the show, I saw the faces of the people, and they were very happy after seeing their homes spic and span once again.

They are totally amazed at how much floor space they actually have and of course, how much load has been taken off their shoulders.

I guess it’s the same with life… Sometimes, we are deep in overwhelming amounts of mental clutter that we no longer see that the world is such a huge place, waiting for us to explore it.

Be it mental or physical, clutter brings stress. And the only way out is to ORGANIZE.

But sometimes, it’s really hard to do so, and no matter how hard we try, the struggle is real.

Clutter brings about anxiety. The instantaneous flow of different information such as social media and other digital distractions can accelerate mental activity.

This can be overwhelming for many of us. But now there's a way to achieve mental clarity by training your mind for just minutes a day.

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Nowadays, life is so fast-paced that it is getting so hard for many of us to cope.

My friend, Dr. Steve G. Jones is a Clinical Hypnotherapist who created a self-hypnosis track to help declutter the mind.

This is for those who are constantly worrying and are looking for ways to be more focused and get more things done.

I have personally tried this track, and it really helped me A LOT.

Not just that, my teenage son listened to this powerful hypnosis track and it has helped him achieve clarity and increased his daily focus.

Dr. Steve is right, getting rid of the non-essential mental baggage is the most important step to staying motivated, focused, and productive.

Here’s how you can benefit from The Decluttered Mind Self Hypnosis Track:

# 1: Have Laser-Focused Concentration that lasts ALL DAY

Having the focus to get things done is one of the top habits of the most successful people.

A cluttered mind lacks focus, which leads to decreased performance. As a result, this increases your anxiety and stress levels.

Mental clutter can put your brain into overdrive. However, decluttering your mind can give your concentration a massive boost.

This special guided meditation track is one of the fastest ways to achieve mental clarity and stay focused ALL DAY.

# 2: Boost Your Mood

Mental clutter has a profound effect on your self-esteem and mood.

Disorganized thoughts will make you cranky. It can give the illusion that you do not have your life together.

With this self-hypnosis, you can easily reorganize your thoughts and feel happier about yourself and with your goals in life.

# 3: Manage Stress with Ease

If your thoughts are cluttered, you could find yourself working harder than you need to…

…and this leads to stress and anxiety.

But what if there was a way to ease the clutter and automatically focus on the things that need to be done…

…instead of thinking of all the things that you can’t do anything about?

Listening to this track can help you automatically ORGANIZE YOUR THOUGHTS and lower your stress levels.

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# 4: Break Negative Thought Habits

Decluttering your mind can increase positive thinking AND disrupt negative thought patterns.

Once you have a focused, clutter-free mindset, you are going to find yourself being less negative about the things that come into your life.

This self-hypnosis track is the quickest way to INSTALL POSITIVE THOUGHT HABITS and break negative ones.

# 5: Get Rid of Mental Blocks

Most people don’t realize that their subconscious mind is filled with thoughts that limit them and hold them back.

UNCLOG YOUR MIND from clutter and get your creativity flowing again!

Use the power of self-hypnosis to get rid of unnecessary thoughts that do more harm than good.

# 6: Improve Sleep

Having too many thoughts running through your head leads to sleepless nights.

This POWERFUL self-hypnosis track has been designed to help you get a grip on these thoughts.

Once you learn how to quiet your mind, managing your stream of thoughts becomes effortless.

No more staying up at night from worrisome thoughts. Now, you can re-wire your mind for inner peace AND say goodbye to ruminating!

So, if you are sick of negative or unwanted thoughts going around and around in your mind, or just want to find a way to be more focused and productive to get more stuff done in a day...

This powerful hypnosis track is designed to declutter your mind and help you achieve clarity, and stay focused the whole day.

Use this to maximize what you can achieve each day!

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How soon will you experience a surge in your productivity after you declutter your mind?

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